This is a blog about that awesome new fad known as polyamory. And a bunch of other stuff. But the general prism through which everything is going to be filtered on this blog is in fact, polyamory. So I’m guessing that if you’re not already into it, and you happen to get here, you might want to know a little bit more about what the hell it is.
Well, I’m not going to tell you. I’ve got a few ideas about what polyamory is not. I’ll tell you all about what poly isn’t. For example, it isn’t an ideology. It’s more like the absence of silly notions about human sexuality. But I’ll let the consensus tell you more about what polyamory is here.
Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. So much is implied by that one sentence. Think about it for a second. Sex with other people where all the players have full knowledge and consent is impossible right? I mean at least not in your life. So imagine taking it past even sex. MORE THAN ONE LOVE? That’s madness.
Madness? No. This is POLYAMORY!
Now, add the ingredient commonly referred to as responsibility. Without responsibility, polyamory is something else entirely. But since the point of polyamory is that we have these desires to love multiple partners, then responsibility is going to show up rapidly. If it was just sex, responsibility would be way less important. Most people think they can’t have multiple partners, and have that kind of love for all of them, so they settle for sex. They end up doing things irresponsibly because they’re already operating outside the rules. Well what if the rules were all screwed up, more an accretion of cultural, religious, and historical taboos than anything rational, anything that would naturally apply to your actual life? People who are disabused of these notions are commonly referred to as polyamorists.
So there’s t
he springboard. Here’s some resources written by people who have less of a sense of humor than me.
This is the best jumping off point, really. http://www.newsweek.com/2009/07/28/only-you-and-you-and-you.html
OOOOO Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
Also, if you’ve gotten to this point, and you absolutely must vent your molten hatred of me for even thinking about this heinous abomination, please leave a comment. I will respond to it with vast respect. Or make fun of you. You should totally find out. I am so loved by my constellation that I can take your hatred without any sweat whatsoever. I wish the same for you, deeply. One day it might be true for you. Nothing you can say or do can prove otherwise: People could one day love you. Make it today.